A Candidate’s Experience Seeking Advice from a Recruiter

I’m not quite sure where to share this, so if this isn’t the right place, please let me know. I was recently recruited for a position in a neighboring state, and I underestimated the time and effort required for relocating—like finding a new place to live, managing the move, giving notice at my current job, and breaking my lease. Initially, I planned to start in late October, but after Hurricane Helene hit the area where the job is located, my plans were delayed by two weeks since I couldn’t work with a realtor due to power outages and blocked roads. As a result, I hesitated to give my current job and apartment notice because I didn’t want to risk becoming homeless and jobless without securing a new home first.

After a long search, I finally found a place last Thursday and asked the recruiter to push my start date to November 11. I intended to give my notice that same day, but then I learned that my company requires six weeks’ notice to keep my PTO—this was an oversight on my part. I didn’t want to bring up my departure until I was certain about everything. Now I find myself needing to ask the recruiter again if I can postpone my start date to late November.

Additionally, I discovered that my current apartment added a new clause in the lease that imposes not only two months’ rent but also a $3,600 penalty for breaking it. It’s frustrating to think I may have to pay out of pocket as I start my new job. While I might be stuck with the lease situation, keeping my PTO is important to me.

I’m really anxious about having to ask the recruiter for a start date extension once more. Given these circumstances, do you think such a request is unreasonable?