Advice from a Recruiter: A Candidate’s Perspective

I’m not quite sure where to share this, so bear with me if this isn’t the right place. I was recently recruited for a job in a neighboring state, but I might have been overly optimistic about the time needed for essential tasks like finding housing, planning the move, notifying my current employer, and breaking my lease. Initially, I aimed for a start date in late October, but then the area I was moving to suffered significant damage from Hurricane Helene. This disaster disrupted my plans, cutting off two weeks when I could have worked with a realtor due to power outages and blocked roads.

As a result, I hesitated to inform my current employer about my departure, fearing I might end up homeless and without a job before securing my new place. Just last Thursday, I finally found a new apartment and requested my recruiter to push my start date to November 11. I planned to resign from my current job the same day, but I then learned that if I didn’t provide six weeks’ notice, I would forfeit all my accrued PTO—definitely not what I wanted.

I hadn’t intended to raise this issue with my employer until my new job was confirmed, so I’m feeling hesitant about asking the recruiter again if I can push my start date to late November. To add to my stress, my current apartment complex has introduced a new clause in the lease, which I’ve held for three years, imposing a penalty of $3,600 along with two months’ rent. It feels overwhelming to bear these extra costs while starting a new job.

Given these challenges, is it unreasonable for me to request another extension on my start date? I’m really anxious about reaching out to the recruiter again. Any advice would be appreciated!